1. What did you do in 2020 that you’d never done before? Finished writing a book + submitted my completed manuscript. Went to ANME in Burbank, California with my best friend on a networking mission. Went to see a stand-up show about blowjobs. Did shrooms. Got stopped by security at…

I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling like this was an especially good year to recede into the world inside one’s headphones. Whether grooving to dream-pop on a masked walk down to the waterfront, musing to mopey-sounding singer/songwriters on my rooftop, or strutting to indie pop headed home with a…

Previously: 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018. In 2019 I made 23.5% more money than I made in 2018. My blog made 83.6% more money than it did in 2018 — wow! My podcast made 10.2% more money than the previous year. I didn’t do as well in the non-blog…

1. What did you do in 2019 that you’d never done before? Ghostwrote a choose-your-own-adventure hypnokink game. Did a batch of copywriting for a company that makes handcrafted impact implements. Attended a suicide intervention workshop. Got interviewed on live radio about asexuality. Ate the best pancakes ever. Wrote an (as-yet-unpublished)…

It would be nice to imagine that a mental illness such as depression could remain corralled within the borders of one’s mind. But inevitably, it spreads into one’s life like a creeping contagion — and that’s the whole problem, isn’t it? …

Previously: 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017. Quick stats: In 2018 I made 5.8% more money than I made in 2017 — so, not a lot more, but it’s still nice to see an upswing, no matter how small. My blog brought in 36.6% more money than it did in the…

1. What did you do in 2018 that you’d never done before? Spent New Year’s Day basically flirting and having phone sex all day. Wrote for the Walrus (twice!). Wrote for Cosmopolitan. Had my legs shaved by a partner. Went on the most nervewracking date of my life. Got spanked…

One of the most troubling misapprehensions I’ve ever held was that boys are somehow fundamentally different from me. It fucked me up. It still sometimes does. As a young queer gal, I shied away from sex with men — or even dating them — for a long time, fearing in…

What I am about to say is embarrassing and I don’t know why. Landmark, the first full-length album from Minnesota-based indie pop band Hippo Campus, came out in February, and since then I have listened to it dozens upon dozens of times. So many times, y’all. Too many times. …